I have to ask…does size truly matter?” -Worried in WI?

Dear Worried in WI,?

Ah, the age old question of whether or not bigger is better, one that has been going through the minds of every boy since the first time he saw another guy’s dick in the locker room and compared it to his own. ?Studies have shown that the average sized penis is about six inches long when erect. ?I, personally, am a huge fan of big dicks. ?Really, the bigger it is the more turned on I am and the more I want to throw my legs behind my head and say “get to it!” ?There is a perfectly scientific explanation for this: I have a prostate.?

Many of you are probably familiar with the G-spot, the female orgasm jackpot located on the lower anterior wall of a woman’s vagina capable of producing the very illusive female ejaculation. The good news is that we boys have one too, only it’s located up the ass and thus has come to be known as the A-spot. ?The A-spot can be found by inserting a finger all the way into a man’s rectum and pushing towards the genitals where you can feel the prostate, which is about the size of a walnut. ?The prostate produces about 30% of ejaculate fluids and is extremely sensitive to the touch, whether you’re straight or gay. ?Thus when I’m on my back (or knees or feet) enjoying some anal penetration, the bigger the penis is the more it can really narrow in on and pound my prostate, producing a truly mind-blowing orgasm. ?Over the summer I was seeing (and screwing) a very well endowed guy with whom I had some of the best sex of my life. ?Just how big was his dick you ask? ?Big enough that, as the receptor in anal sex, I could come without ever having to touch my own dick (in the world of bottoms-gay guys who take it-this basically qualifies as the ultimate goal). ??

If, WIW, you’re straight and questioning the value of penis size for vaginal intercourse, the answer is more complicated. ?Only about a quarter of women are able to have orgasms during sex with a man (assuming penis-in-vagina intercourse) while eighty percent of women are able to achieve orgasm when masturbating or engaging in girl-on-girl play. ?The difference: when masturbating or having sex with another woman the emphasis is on the clitoris, not the penis. ?While our society is pretty phallo-centric (think popsicles, the Washington Monument and that statue in front of Camp Randall), the female sex drive cannot be satisfied by cock alone. ?The visible clitoris has gained popularity as the key to satisfying your woman, but it is, literally, just the tip of the iceberg. The clitoris actually extends inside a woman’s body and forks out to surround the vagina, thus “vaginal orgasms” actually result from indirect clitoral stimulation by the thrusting penis. ?This would make girth a much more important of a factor than length for straight sex. ?There is some recent evidence that by stimulating the cervix, located at the very back of the vagina, uterine orgasms can be produced (this is the reason doctors recommend having sex to induce labor), but they are much rarer than orgasms produced by clitoral stimulation. ?

Not an expert in the subject of vaginal intercourse myself, I decided to ask a few girlfriends how they felt about the issue: is it the size of the ship or the motion of the ocean? ?Almost unanimously, all girls say that it’s more about what you do with what you have. ?So here’s as straightforward of an answer as I can give you WIW: There is such a thing as too small (“is it in yet?”) and too big (even I have seen dicks I wouldn’t let near me with all the KY in Madtown), but size is rarely a deal breaker. ?Even I, with my penchant for copiously sized cock, have had good sex with average and less-than-average sized guys. To best pleasure your partner make sure to brush up on your oral and manual sex skills, since these seem to get just about everyone off and are essential for producing female orgasm. ?Whether you’re screwing guys or girls, bigger size may be to your benefit, but don’t let it make you cocky-pun intended.?

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I love my ex. We can’t ever seem to really break up. The sex is so great! We fight, but then makeup…. I can’t seem to leave him. What should I do? –Distressed and Horny.

Dear DAH,?

My first question is, why is this person your guy your ex in the first place? ?Honestly fighting is normal in a relationship (and often makes for good make-up sex) and as long as it wasn’t constant or damaging I can’t see why you broke up, especially if you still love him. ?If, on the other hand, your fighting got to the point where friends, roommates and your mother all begged and pleaded for the relationship to end then I can only say one thing: move the hell on. ?Seriously. ??

Great sex is great, really it is. ?Nobody appreciates great sex more than I do. ?I am a huge fan of great sex, but if great sex is really all that is keeping you in a relationship that is stressing you out, do yourself a favor and stop having sex with him. ?Confusing sex with love is dangerous. ?Of course sex with someone you love is more special and someone you love is likely to know how to make you feel good in bed, but the two are not mutually exclusive. ?There other fish in the sea, after all you live on a college campus just crawling with virile young men and somewhere out there is another guy with whom you could be having great sex without the worry of stresslines.

I want to give great head. For every type of person. What are the best tips for eating out and blowing someone? –Mr. Cock and Pussy

Dear Mr CAP,?

Pleasing every type person is a big job, but third base is definitely the place to start. ?Oral sex is one of the most satisfying experiences for both men and women, and favorite techniques vary depending on who it is you’re servicing. ?That said, let the lesson begin.?

Blowjobs are one of my personal favorite activities in bed. ?Whether I’m getting or giving I’m happy as a horny hippo and am more than willing to share some of knowledge with you. ?So, here are my four easy key techniques in giving good head: 1. The head of the penis is one of the most sensitive spots on a guy’s body, so take advantage of it. ?By licking, sucking and blowing on the head of a guy’s dick you’ll basically send him to heaven and back. ?Try running your tongue along its edge for a few more sparks as well. 2. Deepthroating is hot. ?Taking a guy’s whole dick into your mouth at once is impressive and feels great. ?Try singing the lowest possible note you can imagine and your throat will relax and open up, lifting your soft pallet and making room him. 3. Don’t be afraid to use your hands. ?Manual stimulation during a blowjob is almost sure to get a guy off. ?Grip the shaft of his cock, using your saliva as lube and jerk him off while you suck it and I promise you’ll have him seeing stars. 4. It’s all about rhythm. ?Make sure to vary how fast of slow you’re sucking him off. ?This will keep him continually excited and allow you to be the one in control. When you’re ready to be done, start slowly speeding up and increasing your suction and he won’t be able to stop himself from coming. 5. You aren’t limited to the dick. ?Try sucking on fondling his balls while your mouth is at work on his penis. ?Also check out the perineum, that stretch of skin between the base of his penis and his anus. ?This “highway to heaven” is very sensitive in both men and women and by gently stimulating it with your fingers you increase the intensity of his orgasm.?

Now, eating out is a subject I’m less well-informed on. ?Vaginas to me are like khaki pants, I can see why some people might like them, but they just aren’t my style. ?In order to best help you out I asked around and got some female perspectives on just what makes a guy a good muff diver. ?Performing oral sex on women, it seem, is much more complicated. ?Every girl I talked to had something different to say, but almost all mentioned the clitoris: do the abcs with your tongue on her clit, finger her while flicking your tongue over her clit, etc. ?This magic button is located just above the vagina and urethra where the inner lips come together. ?If a closeted me could locate my high school girlfriend’s clit, then I have hope that the rest of you can find it also if you just feel around. ?Due to the great variety of preferences that my female friends expressed, I suggest that when performing cunnilingus it is probably best to let the woman lead. ?While this may seem unromantic and even emasculating to some, every woman knows her body the best and can easily point you in the right direction.?

You now have the building blocks to becoming a fantastic performer of oral sex. ?Use these tips and gauge your partners’ reactions to start working your way into the sex hall of fame!