Dear Hump Day: I want to give great head. For every type of person. What are the best tips for eating out and blowing someone? –Mr. Cock and Pussy.
You are wise in wanting to be able to give good oral sex. Giving good head is important because as a guy who loves getting head as much, if not more, than the next guy I can speak for everyone when I say giving good head is an asset, to say the least. Giving good head, or up-tight for that matter, should be one of many sexual talents in your arsenal. The skill of giving good oral sex should be honed, improved, and practiced… often. Having said that here are some ways to perform mind blowing, toe bending, unforgettable oral sex on your partner.
For girls, Start slow. It is important to relish the penis, don’t try to get it over with. Once he is hard, which is easy to do, stroke the penis slowly with eye contact if possible. This lets him know that everything you are doing is deliberate, meaningful, and very sexy. After a minute or two of suspense-building stroking: lick his penis. You will not need your whole tongue, the tip will do. Gently lick his penis from the base of the scrotum to the tip then explore the head of his penis with your tongue. Have your tongue meet with every last part of his throbbing glans then use your lips. Wet your lips and run your (well moisturized) soft lips across his shaft, back and forth several times on each side. It is time for the main event.
Gently suction your wet lips around the head of his penis and start going at it, slower at first then speeding up. Use your hand to make up for what you can’t fit in your mouth by firmly gripping his penis with your hand directly adjacent to your lips. This way he won’t be able to tell where your mouth ends and your hand starts.
Be enthusiastic. Guys love girls who are into the cock, not hesitant, nervous, or apprehensive about giving head. This is not to say that you should go shoving the penis in your mouth without warning, but you should at least try to like it. Besides, if you like it, he’ll like it even more. Don’t get sloppy, though, and for God’s sake do not use your teeth! You can avoid this by keeping your jaw open wider than necessary with your lips puckered to compensate. Have an enthusiastic tongue, too. While you are thrusting your mouth back and forth use your tongue to lick his penis vigorously and lubricate your lips, as well.
When he is about to cum you have several options. If you swallow, great. For the guy this is a seamless euphoric explosion into your mouth – but make sure not to stop until he is finished. If you have an open mind spitting is not the only option. Tightly and quickly directing the load on your face or on your chest can be even more satisfying for the guy. Also, the sacrifice you have made will likely not be soon forgotten. If you’re even more comfortable you can tell him how bad you want his load all over you. Congrats, you have just given the best head any guy has ever had the pleasure of receiving.
For guys, know your anatomy. Guys’ genitals are external, distinct, and very navigable. The female anatomy is more subtle, but not mysterious. The clitoris is located at the top of the inner lips, where the two lips meet. It is not always visible or distinct from other parts in that area; do not be discouraged, it is there. The clit is very sensitive and does not require direct contact to be stimulated. It can easily be stimulated not only by the tongue but just by licking and stimulating the area around the clitoris. You can start off licking that area; make sure you are well hydrated as a well lubricated tongue is much appreciated. Once her own lubrication has allowed her vagina to be easily accessible penetrate the vagina with your index and middle finger. Continue licking! Put pressure on the front vaginal wall and massage quickly. In order to obtain an orgasm you must be patient and persistent! It can take upwards of ten minutes of vigorous licking and massaging to get her to have an orgasm, but you don’t need to stop at one, either!
Vary the speed and pressure of both your licking and massaging. You can gauge how good it feels to her by various pleasure signs: writhing, tensing, moaning, grip (assuming her hands are on your head,shoulders, etc.).
Increase stimulation. You can do this by wiggling your head (back and forth or up and down) while licking her upper labial area. You can also do different things with your fingers, too. Putting pressure on the back wall of the vagina will simultaneously stimulate the vagina and the colon. If your partner is hygienic down there and you feel comfortable the anus is an erogenous zone and can be a real turn-on. Beware! It may be a big turn off if you are too aggressive or your partner is uptight.
You now have the tools you need to give the oral your partner wants and deserves. Remember to like what you are doing because your partner likes what you are doing. If you do not like what you are doing, your partner won’t like it as much, either. Everyone likes orgasms and if you give good orgasms, your partner will like you, too! Oh yeah… and you can’t get pregnant from oral sex. Sweet.
