Hump Day: I want to give great head. For every type of person. What are the best tips for eating out and blowing someone? -Mr. Cock and Pussy.

Oral sex is commonly viewed as nature’s alternative to doing the dirty, but it’s so much more than that! Going down on someone can often be more intimate, pleasing, and straight-up sexier than sex itself (not to mention more cost-effective – no condoms or pregnancy tests needed for this act!). Because everyone is different, it’s important to recognize that pleasure points vary from person to person; it’s ultimately up to YOU to judge whether or not your partner is thoroughly enjoying your salivating stimulation. However, here are a few tips to keep your tongue from twisting when you need it most…

?? ? ? 1. Have fun! There’s no bigger turn off than a partner that’s clearly not into it. Let your partner know that giving pleasure turns you on by: 1) making eye contact – giving a sultry stare while your mouth is occupied lets him/her know that your mind is completely consumed by the dirty deed you’re performing, and can actually be a huge turn on by itself; 2) softly moaning or releasing sporatic sounds of pleasure from your vocal cords – not only does this send the general message to your partner that you’re into it, but also adds gentle vibrations to the mix; 3) pleasuring yourself – self-stimulation can be very sexy, and may result in your own orgasm. Now THAT is an excellent example of skillful multitasking!

?? ? ? 2. Communicate! This tip goes for both the giver and the receiver. When performing oral sex, discovering what gets your partner off the most can be made easy with a few phrases: “Do you like it when I do this?”, “How does that feel, baby?”, or, “What do you want me to do next?”

?? ? ? Although they may look funny on paper, questions like these can clue you in to what your partner craves, and ease any awkward tension that may be present. As for the receiver, guiding your partner can make oral much more pleasurable for you. Don’t be afraid to let your partner know what her or she is doing right or wrong!

?? ? ? 3. Focus on anatomical hot spots! Both man and woman are blessed with parts that are extremely sensitive to touch, especially when aroused. On men, the frenulum, or the band of tissue where the head and the shaft meet (right below the mushroom), is one of those hot spots. To stimulate, try flicking your tongue from the shaft to the head, or covering the head with your mouth and sliding your tongue around the band itself. It’s important to keep your man guessing when performing oral, so counter your tonguing techniques by occasionally taking as much of his penis into your mouth as possible. Although doing this may uncomfortably trigger your gag reflex, his head and frenulum are highly stimulated by the back of your throat in this position.

?? ? ? On females, the clitoris is the major hot spot. It contains roughly as many nerve endings as an entire penis (!), making it extremely sensitive to touch. To locate the clitoris, find the small hood of skin that connects the inner labia, or lips, of the vagina. When gently pulled back, a tiny, bead-like structure is revealed – bingo! To stimulate, flick your tongue across it with little pressure applied. The sensitivity level of the clitoris varies widely from female to female, so be sure to start off with very light stimulation. As your girl gets more into it, try flicking your tongue faster, with more pressure, or even suck or softly bite her clitoris and surrounding area. Don’t forget to gauge her reaction as you test out your options.

?? ? ? NOTE – Although the vagina is most certainly the pleasure point for sexual intercourse, it is NOT the focal point for oral sex! Licking around the opening of the vagina will NOT give a female much pleasure. In fact, she’ll likely assume that you’re teasing the hell out of her. Although teasing makes sexual activity fun and interesting, too much of it is just isn’t fair!

?? ? ? 4. Use your hands! Spreading legs apart or holding a penis upright aren’t the only tasks your hands can handle. When giving fellatio, use the flicking technique on the head while moving your hand up and down the length of the shaft. This combines two types of stimulation in two very distinct places on the penis. Also, try massaging your guy’s balls while giving him head. The scrotum, as well as the perineum, or the area of skin between the scrotum and anus, can cause a lot of pleasure if massaged gently. Make sure your guy is comfortable with you exploring down there first, however!

?? ? ? When eating a female out, slipping one or two fingers into her vagina is a typical tandem with clitoral stimulation. While flicking your tongue across the clitoris, pump your finger(s) in and out of her vagina, increasing speed and amount of fingers as time goes on. When performing these two tasks together, your girl will likely achieve an intense orgasm. If you’re looking to absolutely WOW her, keep pumping and licking just as fast while she cums – she may reach multiple orgasms!

?? ? ? These are just a few of many tips that you’ll eventually acquire as common knowledge as you gain more experience with giving oral sex. After all, practice makes perfect – and in all honesty, what better activity is there to practice?