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Party etiquette: A freshman disaster
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Freshmen never saw a party they didn’t like. They live by the mottos “Free beer tastes better” and “come one, come all.” If you didn’t notice already, freshmen tend to reside in a world of debauchery, sweaty house parties and Fleischmann’s vodka in Aquafina water bottles — a world where getting “faced” comes before both bros and hoes, a world where party etiquette does not exist.
With my little brother moving into Madison as an incoming freshman, I was excited to initiate him with his first Madtown “rager.” We party-proofed our small, yet sturdy Mifflin fortress, duct taping down the iPod, scraping the goo off of the pong table and cleaning the beer bong until it was shinier than Anderson Cooper’s metal hair. Rage engaged.
Sure enough, little brother’s brigade arrived with 32 legs and 16 sets of balls. Now, my household is not a fraternity desperate to achieve a 3:1 girl-to-guy ratio, but a 16-person dude crew is not going to fly no matter where you go for skeezy keg beer. We sent most of the liabilities on their way and allowed little brother to choose his “Fab five” to let inside.
Turns out his “Fab five” was not so fabulous; they swindled cups (for Coca-Cola drinking only, Johnny Law), called over more freshmen dudes, and not even one of them looked anything like Chris Webber. When we asked them for cup donations, they were more lost for words than Sammy Sosa at the “‘roids” trials.
As a senior, it blows my wits knowing that was once me — the amateur who showed up with seven dudes, snatched a cup off the beer pong table and sold it on the way out, sucking the life out of both the party and the keg.
We were all there at one point and would probably all go back if we could. However, we enter a college maturity process. We grow with the experience of being a guest in the houses, apartments and shit holes of others. Party etiquette is not something that can be taught; it is learned from hard lessons and endless amounts of party fouls. Hey, it may take a nice ‘n’ loud UW “asshole chant” before you stop playing defense in beer pong. Maturity comes at the expense of embarrassment.
So as veteran UW students, it is our obligation to guide the way for our freshmen by embracing their mistakes, maintaining an understanding and keeping them off the guest list.
Keep the guest list to immediate friends: If your address gets out to a youngster, their entire dorm floor will be showing up 20 minutes after the first freshman arrives. No one wants the 25 schmaggled homeboys from Witte 7A.
Lock away all steal-able objects: I’ve witnessed the thievery of a kitchen blender, a case of energy drinks and even a ninja sword that had formerly been mounted on the host’s wall.
Designate a party enforcer: Choose your biggest prick roommate and put him/her in charge of kicking out undesirables from your party (cup moochers, thieves, pukers, etc.). Backpack tax: Freshmen love bringing backpacks of their own beverages into your war-zone. That maneuver comes at a cost, payable by cash or the contents of the knapsack.
The “Party Execution” is not the answer: Some party hosts choose to punish unwanted guests with whiskey or Tabasco-spiked beer bongs. This sketchy tactic can only lead to polluted first-years and more cleanup for you.
Hide the second keg: “The keg is gone! Everybody out!” A classic that gives you the opportunity to filter out stragglers and customize your party crowd.
Brett Wisniewski (wisniewski@wisc.edu) is a senior majoring in journalism.
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This column is well-written and interesting but so easy, not thought-provoking in any way and shallow like MTV. I’m a freshman and I could have written this article.
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Naw. It just sucks.
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your parents must be so proud.
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What’s the point of this column?
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This is what Palin would sound like if she wrote about parties.
I mean, if she could write.
Also, who says “rage”? Come on!
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Those who appreciate this piece have to be able to reflect on their Freshmen year. So because you are a Freshmen, it would not be logical for you to right an article on Freshmen stereotypes. C’mon, making fun of yourself? …Not too thought provoking.
Enjoy the greatest year of your 18-year career.
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hey whitte 7A was the best two years ago. you would be honored to have us.
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Why would you want to keep your guest list to immediate friends? Part of the fun of attending house parties when I went to UW-Mad was meeting new people, especially girls at the parties…
Moreover, packing a ton of people into a house or basement, turning on the music, blacklights, etc. was desireable.
I’m not a fan of the house parties students throw nowadays where it’s only friends invited, all the lights are on, and everyone tries to act as sober as possible while drinking…
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I’m expecting a rebuttal for Lori Berquam on Monday. If red plastic cups and ping pong balls placed together at a Walgreen’s send inappropriate messages to freshman then an outright condoning of drinking by freshman certainly does.
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Wow. You sent away a dozen people because they were guys? That’s pretty pathetic. As a female co-ed, I’d much rather attend a party hosted by someone secure enough to extend a hand to the newest members of Wisconsin (regardless of gender) than by some guy with a seniority complex at the wise-old-age of 22. I understand the sentiment of party etiquette, but you shouldn’t be the one giving tips.
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im a freshman, how dare you offend me… me and my bro-train can go to any party we want. RAGE CAGE!
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Yes, yes. Let’s keep the freshman out of alcohol’s reach. Not because, you know, it’s illegal or because it’s irresponsible, but merely because they have bad manners.
Brilliant.
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Dude…you need to use a little less analogies in your writing. This is terrible