While it may be true that women don’t cum as often as men, it doesn’t mean they are unable to cum as often. Unlike men, women have a spot whose only function is pleasure, and that is the clitoris. Unlike what most high school sex-ed classes taught, the clitoris is not a small pea-shaped area, but actually slightly smaller than the average male penis. Internally it’s a vast network of erectile tissue that has the capability to engorge with blood, and, because of the incredibly dense bundle of nerve endings, is able to achieve an orgasm. Many women need direct stimulation of the clitoris to reach climax, and due to the way certain women are typically pleasured and/or penetrated, the clit is completely disregarded. This is why some women prefer oral sex to penetration since it’s more likely that their clit will be involved in the fun.

If a woman wants to attain orgasm with penetrative sex, positioning can make a difference (think woman-on-top, or any position where a partner can reach around and tickle the “pleasure zone,” such as doggie style or spooning). Incorporating a small vibrator between bodies is a nice addition as well, as it directly stimulates both partners.

Now, this goes for all people: Stress truly is a buzz kill. If you are having a fun time in the sack and all of a sudden your mind races to the paper due at lunch time or that really rude guy on the 80, it’s less likely you’ll orgasm. Stress ruins the mood because it prevents a person from really engaging mentally and physically in sexual activity. It might sound cheesy, but a good way to counter stress is through massage, which releases tension from the day (i.e., being flustered after running into an ex-hookup after hiking up Bascom) and also gets you focused on your bodily sensations. It’s important to hone in on the pleasure receptors all over your body, from head to toe. Another note: Try, just for the duration of your sexual endeavor, to forget that you hate your thighs and wish your nose wasn’t so big. If you are lucky enough to be getting lucky, it’s fairly likely that your partner is excited to be there and is grateful for the sex. Thinking about how your ass looks during reverse cowgirl is not conducive to maximum pleasure.

Also, take the time to enjoy the sex. Even though it’s true students are always obsessed with time and deadlines, relish in the fact that you are doing something pleasurable. Think of it as a present to yourself, and part of this present includes allotting enough time for foreplay, which is the fun part since it’s when desire is at its peak and leaves you wanting more.

One of the best ways to achieve orgasm with a partner is to learn how to masturbate. In order to have someone else make you cum, shouldn’t you know how to do it yourself? Directing or showing someone the pressure, speed and location that you like is the best way to ensure that you will be like Sally and curling your toes with pleasure.